Using the Rearview Mirror

What do you think it would be like not to use the rearview mirrors on your car when driving around town?  It would be precarious, at best, wouldn’t it?  We would not be able to see what was coming up behind us, how to parallel park well or even see someone coming to pass us, right?

In our personal “rearview mirror”, if we didn’t look back periodically, we would not be able to see from where we came from, how we had grown over the years, or what we had learned.  Things like a bad choice of behavior, a failed marriage, how we matured or not matured through the decades would show up.

I don’t think it is wrong to look back, but the trouble comes, when we GO back to familiar habits, behaviors and choices, such as addictions, sins, or unbelief in God.

Sometimes, when we have had traumatic childhood experiences, we try to NOT look at our “rearview mirror” and pretend those experiences never happened.  We don’t process through the damage and find healing;  we would rather just deny it even happened, but then can’t figure out why we have the deep personal issues we have year after year and day after day.

Looking back on our past isn’t easy or comfortable.  It can even be devastating and horribly painful, but it is a necessary step to healing as we work the issues out;  issues such as abuse of any kind, abandonment, betrayal, neglect, cruelty, etc.  If we don’t, we can identify and define ourselves by the horrible things we have experienced instead of defining ourselves by who GOD says we are and who HE made us to be.  “Then  you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”  Wouldn’t it feel amazing to wake up one day and be free of the chains that have bound you for so long?

One way to find answers and begin to process through it toward freedom is to check into “Chained No More…A Journey of Healing for the Adult Children of Divorce/Childhood Brokenness”. (  It will help you explore and discover what lies in the dark spaces of your heart and help you work through them.  Life-changing!  There is a small group curriculum (participant book and leader guide) and also a self-discovery version for personal study.  Excellent resource.

Also, on Chained No More Talk Radio on Tuesday, my guest is Nanette Kirsch, the author of “Denial”.  Her topic will be “Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse”.  She will share her story, as well as the importance of finding healing from childhood sexual abuse of any kind.  Tune in tomorrow at at 2-3pm ET 

You may also download the podcast beginning later that day at

Don’t forget to check your “rearview mirror” occasionally as you drive forward into your future.  May you allow God to guide you every step of the way.