Loneliness: Walls and Bridges


There is a quote that says,  “Many people are lonely because they build walls and not bridges.  Think about that…are you a wall builder or a bridge builder with the people in your life?

Have you been hurt time after time, so you have built thick walls around yourself for protection?  Now you find yourself sitting in mistrust and afraid to make yourself open or vulnerable again.  Night after night, and day after day, you sit in your house longing to have a companion/friend, but afraid to take another chance.

God made us for relationships and love.  You know the verses, “Love one an other as I have loved you.”  Greater love has no man that this that a man lay down his life for his friends.”  “Be kind one to another.”  “Love your neighbor as yourself.” and on and on…….

Another quote:  “The most lonely place in the world is the human heart when love is absent.”

Like I always say, “You can’t change the past, but you sure can decide what happens in your future.”  There is a big world outside your walls and there are many who are also in need of friendship.  You are not the only lonely person on the planet.  Starting today, step outside your lonely box, take a walk, go to the library or a park and strike up a conversation with at least one person.  Ask someone out for lunch, dinner or a movie.

You are not asking for a commitment from them; just a brief connection.  Who knows what could come from it?  No one is just going to suddenly appear in your living room like they were transported in “Star Trek” shows, right?

Look up a local church and attend a service or an event.  Go join a gym.  Go to a concert or a sports event.  Strike up a conversation.  Come on!  One step at a time.

If you are single and are longing for a romantic relationship, attend the things within your own interests, and you will probably find others who enjoy the same things.  Strike up a conversation.  There will be no changes unless you begin to change your perspective and take a chance.  Ask the Lord God to give you the confidence and strength to take a step out of your loneliness.  He will and He promises He goes before you.  Believe it!


This week on Chained No More Talk Radio, our guest will be Kris Swiatocho, who is the Director of The Singles Network.  Her topic will be:  “Loneliness and the Single Life.”  She is an author, speaker, and is a dynamic women of purpose who is also single.  She gets it and will give great encouragement and practical tools for those listeners who struggle with loneliness on a daily basis.  You will love her.  Tuesday, Sept. 20 at 2pm ET at www.toginet.com.

What are you waiting for?  Change out of those sweats, fix yourself up, open the door, breathe in some fresh air, look up at the Lord and say, “Okay, Lord, I will trust you with this day.  Walk in front of me and show me the way out of my loneliness today.  I’m ready for a change!”  Crumble the walls around you and begin to build bridges.  Sound good?!