How Did I Get Here Anyway?

Where did I come from?  Why am I the way I am?  Why do I act and talk this way? Why can’t I have a healthy relationship?  When did I begin living in fear and mistrust?  Why can’t I just get over “it”?

Personal questions like these can be depressing or it can propel you to dig deep and figure out who you really are. They can help you accept yourself as you are, or it might even make you want to find answers for healing the deepest hurts in you.

Many times our struggles begin with the parenting we had and traumatic experiences we had a children.  We try to push them aside and “just get over them”, but for some reason, we still struggle.   We just don’t see the connections.

“We are all a product of our parenting, good or bad.  Some of us had caring parents, whether they divorced or not.  Some of us had abusive parents or neglectful parents.  There is nothing you or anyone else can do to change that now, but it is important to explore the parenting you had and how it has affected you up to this point in your life.  When you do that, you can make the choice to continue those patterns or break the chains for generations ahead.  You no longer have to sweep them under the carpet and say, ‘That’s just how I am’.

It is important to evaluate where your attitudes, beliefs, actions and feelings come from.  This is not meant to blame or disrespect your parents, but it is a tool to understand the issues you have in your life and how they may relate back to your childhood and had such power over you.  Your parents had or have their own issues they can explore.  However, you need to dig deep to discover your own issues.  It may just open the door for you.”

From the book, “Chained No More” by Robyn Besemann

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